Sex & The Womble Part 2

So back to the nitty gritty world that is SEX.

Such a taboo word and something people really don’t like talking about but it is probably the most natural thing you can do with someone. The things that people like, dislike, get excited about, get turned off about are never the same with two people.

I’ve experienced a variety of different encounters, some I’ve enjoyed and some well I’ve had to pretend as though I have. Faking it is something I’m sure all of us have had to do at one time or another to not hurt someone’s feelings but in reality surely we should have the confidence to just say “that’s really not doing it for me”, but still we continue to fake a reality for other people’s benefit rather than our own. Sometimes we have to be selfish because let’s be honest if it isn’t good it isn’t going to get better without good communication.

Trust with a sexual partner is key, I’ve always been the same in my views of if your sleeping with me – your sleeping with only me. If I don’t tick the boxes your looking for don’t bother wasting my time. Some guys see this as commitment, I however do not. I’m not asking you to marry me I’m just asking you to be courteous and honest. I will never be a backup plan, I will never just sleep with you while you look for something better, I will not sleep with you again if you break my trust. I refuse to sell myself short anymore just for the sake of someone else.

I always used to use sex as a tool for attention or for someone to like me, this however is always short lived because you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. Men can sometimes only think with their pecker ( that’s not me saying some women don’t think with their natural urges) but statistics show men are just happy to get their rocks off with some one for the sake of it, whereas women are more likely to do it for a feeling of acceptance or feeling wanted. One phrase that has always stuck with me in my recently single state “women sleep with who they want, men sleep with who they can”.

Being naked with someone is something exceptionally intimate for me as like most women I’ve always had body confidence issues, to allow someone to see every single part of me is a big thing, I’ve done it with a couple but I’ve never felt truly comfortable in myself to do it until recently. I used to think that seeing me naked was like looking at me at my most vulnerable which I guess it is and I’ve never been confident enough to be vulnerable again.

I guess what I’m saying is everyone dislikes something about themselves but its about finding someone that doesn’t make you worry about the flaws because to them they don’t matter because you are beautiful no matter what anybody else thinks. <3